Who are Holiday Food Pushers
It might be your Aunt, Mother, Grandma, or your Brother. Anyone could be a food pusher. It is that person in the family that insists you try this vegetable or that dessert they made. The food might be something new or the old family favorite dish. They just think you should have a bite.
Holiday food pushers are people you love and respect and want to spend time with but they can wreak havoc on your health plans, diet, and mental state.
Do not become a pawn in their games. I know you love them and want to please them. You do not have to please everyone especially not a food pusher.
Ways to Deal with Your Holiday Food Pusher
1. Just Say “No” and “Thank you”
2. Say “I am already full.” “Thank you.”
3. Say “Thank you” toss it or if you like it, put it in your to-go container.
4. Take a small bite, comment or compliment if it is good, and toss the rest.
5. Invite the food pusher on a walk.
How can you do these things? Keep in mind what you want for the holidays and that is not to be a stuffed turkey who can’t move.
When you set your intention for the holidays and plan your meal it is easier to say no thank you and move on to enjoying your time with family and friends.
What Causes a Food Pusher?
Often times it is a sense of taking care of others.
Some people need to feel needed and they do that by forcing themselves on you whatever way works. Pushing food has worked for them in the past. If you think they are trying to take care of you, “Thank you, Mom.” Besides the typical no, thank you, give them a hug. Then tell them how special they are and how happy you are that they want to take care of you.
Sometimes it’s because they are insecure and want to know if they did a good job making the food.
If you know the is the case, say you are full but will take a small bite to try it out. Complement the food if you want and always let them know you appreciate their hard work on the dish.
If you have recently lost weight, it might be because they are a little jealous.
Use one of the no thank-yous listed above then tell them something you admire about them. Oftentimes people just need to know they are good enough just as they are.
Are You the Food Pusher?
What are your thoughts before going and during a holiday gathering?
Are you worried about the food you brought, concerned about your appearance, wanting to make sure everyone is comfortable?
Most people are thinking the same thing, something about themselves. The best way to help them to loosen up to have a good time is a heartfelt compliment. Most people just want to be loved and know they are needed and wanted. Just like you want to be loved, wanted, and needed.
Once you start thinking about loving on them, your thoughts about yourself vanish.
Express that love to others and you will have an amazing holiday with all the love you receive back.
